I do not know when we started getting so lazy, but the hi text is by far the laziest possible option when it comes to texting. Sure, you are just trying to prod him to see if he is around and wants to text, but there are so many more creative ways to get his attention.
Instead, give him a reason to respond. Here are a few examples.
Hey good lookin. How is your morning going?
Hola cutie. Been thinking of you all morning
What each of these examples does is a) lets him know you are thinking about him and b) give him something to respond to. The entire point of texting is to engage in conversation, so keep your goal in mind. Are you looking to make plans with him for tonight? Just catch up on your day? Have a more heartfelt conversation? Keep that goal in mind when you initiate a conversation.
Show Him You Have a Life
I know it seems silly that men would like it when you are unavailable, but do not underestimate the power of the chase. Make yourself too available, and you might turn him off. But show him that you are a busy lady with lots going on, and he will want you even more.
If you want to learn how to text a guy to keep him interested, let him know you are not always available. If you are headed out with friends, respond to his text but let him know you are walking out the door and that you will check in later.
First of all, this is just courteous because (and you know I am right) when you send a text and someone does not respond for hours, you start to get nervous. This way, you are acknowledging his text but also letting him gently know you are not available.
You can also text him about what you are up to. Send him a photo of the fish you just caught or the band you are watching. This makes him feel more connected to you while also showing him that you are not sitting around waiting for him to text.
Here are some examples:
Good to hear from you! I am actually walking out the door to meet friends for happy hour. Can I get back to you tonight?
Just saw the most amazing jazz band at the restaurant I am at. You would love them!
3. Ask Him Questions
Texting a guy you like can be exhilarating, but also nerve-wracking and a little scary. As nervous as you might be at the start of the conversation, if you keep your cool, you will be shooting off texts like a pro by the end. By asking fun questions and teasing him just a little, you can pique his interest and show him the fun, interesting, clever person you are.
Text him first to show your confidence. You might want to wait for him to text you first, but if you beat him to the punch, you can decide on the conversation and show him how confident you are. He will be impressed relieved that you took the pressure off for him.
You do not have to start the conversation every time, though. If you have started things off for your past few conversations, make him show his interest by reaching out to you this time.
Mention something you have done together. Bringing up a recent conversation or activity you did together is a great, natural way to start a conversation. It can feel like you have something casual to bond over, even if you have only hung out in a group setting. Phrase it like a question so he will be sure to respond.
If you have a class together, for example, you could make a funny comment like, Is it just me, or was Mr. Hoffman weirder than usual in math today…
If you have had a memorable conversation, make it feel like an inside joke by saying something like, OK, I still can not get over the fact that you don't like ice cream. How can you not like ice cream??
If you just met him at an event, like a game or a party, reference your meeting by something playful like, Is this that guy that saved my shirt from getting a drink spilled all over it yesterday?
Ask him a random question to show your fun side. If the guy you like has a silly side, being a little spontaneous is a great way to get his attention. Starting with a funny, random question is a surefire way to get him to respond while piquing his interest. Some possibilities include:
This is random but I have to know: if you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
I am having a debate with my friend and you are the deciding vote, so no pressure, but is a hot dog technically a sandwich??
Give him a teasing compliment. Everyone likes an ego boost, but being too overt about it will come off as desperate. Instead, compliment the guy you like in a playful, backhanded that shows him that you are impressed, but not too impressed. Try saying something like:
heard you got the game-winning play yesterday… so I guess you are OK at sports after all
So remember how you fixed the thermostat in my apartment yesterday? Do not let it go to your head, but now my roommate thinks you're some kind of handyman. LOL
It's cool that you got a lead role in the play and all, but do not forget about those of us who knew you before you got famous :
Ask genuine questions about his interests. Think about things you know he is interested in and steer the conversation in that direction. This gives him a chance to show you who he really is, helping you connect on a deeper level. Remember to keep your tone light and playful so it does not feel too serious.
If you know he likes sports, for example, ask who his favorite teams are and how they are doing this year. Ask how he started following them and why.
You could ask about pets, favorite TV shows, classes he is taking, and places he is visited.
Point out when you agree on something by saying, Yeah, I feel the same! and tease him gently when you disagree, saying, I think you're wrong, but I'll forgive you for it ;)
Tease him to keep him on his toes. Many guys love the chase, and throwing in some light, underhanded insults will make him want your approval even more. Be witty and funny to keep him interested and excited for what you'll say next.
For example, if he is going to play basketball with his friends, you could say something like, Try to get the ball in the hoop this time! :P
If you are sitting near him at lunch, you could text him later saying something like, I saw you made your own lunch today! It even looked edible this time… ;)
Only tease him about lighter topics. Stay away from subjects like family, his appearance, politics, or other sensitive subjects, especially if you are just getting to know him.
Talk to him about things you do on your own time. You want to show him that you're interested in his life, but don't make it all about him! Slip in small details about yourself to pique his interest and make him ask about you in return.
Showing him that you have your own life also makes you more interesting and mysterious.
If he is talking about a pet, for example, you could say, I have never had a dog, I feel like I am a cat person all the way...maybe I could be convinced to change my ways though ;)
Use emojis and exclamation points sparingly. Using lots of emojis and punctuation marks can come off as overly aggressive and even make you seem insecure. I is OK to throw in an emoji or exclamation mark here and there, but hold off on attaching more than one, or putting one at the end of every text.
Once you get to know the guys texting style, you can adjust and start sending more emojis. At the start, though, play it safe and keep it simple!
If you think you are coming across as overly-enthusiastic, you probably are. Even if you are on the fence, tone it down a little to play it safe.
You can also send a funny gif or meme every once in a while, but don't overdo it. These add-ons are funniest in smaller amounts.